Question anyone on a busy street anywhere in the world and ask: “How are you?” The reply could very well be, “I’m busy like everybody.” It’s the mantra of modernity. “Busy, busy” is said as humanity hives the world, but to complain is ineffectual, not to mention, unenjoyable.
You can’t stop busy bees any more than you can stop ants or humans. You can’t change them. Despite the malleability of the human brain (see neuroplasticity), most people don’t (or won’t) change their habits even if it made life more enjoyable for everyone, but there is a loop hole you can use to enjoy your life. What is that loop hole? Enjoyment (your own).
Enjoyment is its own reward. Life isn’t meaningless (see: The Great Big Huge Secret). Let this be your litmus test: In any decision ask: Is it enjoyable? Considering a new job? Is it enjoyable? Considering marriage (or divorce). Is it enjoyable? Whatever the decision, think: Is it enjoyable?
Sometimes the answer won’t be clear-cut. “Should I drive fast?” Is it enjoyable? Yes, but a speeding ticket or crash isn’t. Weigh present enjoyment against future enjoyment. Temper enjoyment with reason and go with the flow. Use an enjoyment strategy.
If you have to do something you don’t enjoy (such is life), you can endure for the sake of future enjoyment or for the enjoyment of having enjoyable thoughts as you do the unenjoyable.
The expression, “If you’re not busy living, you’re busy dying,” takes on significance when considered in light that both occur involuntarily. Life happens. Cause is in affect and vice versa. Society exerts pressures to keep us busy and people judge those who aren’t. If you don’t believe it, try this experiment:
Go some place busy and stand still (without being in the way – that wouldn’t be enjoyable). Look around. Watch the world. Imagine you have a special power to slow time down with your own boredom. Shift the focus of your eyes to the periphery. See from the sides. Listen. Imagine everyone is hypnotized except you. Be brave and look dumb.
No doubt you’ll get strange looks. You might get reported for statue behaviour. Serious people will think you’re odd, but who cares? Odd numbers are not divisible by two. If you’re an odd number, you’re alone, but this is your secret power. If you can endure the loneliness, you are home wherever you are.
Lonely souls enjoy a special bond with other lonely souls. Feel sorry for busy bee-people and be kind to them. They’re too busy to know what they’re doing.
People hurry. Don’t believe it? Look around. Millions of cars are visible at night like red and white corpuscles in city-bodies. Nature, as in “the wild” is designated, sectioned off, preserved. Animals are moored in small island parks, but it is pointless to complain. It is a human race we live, but you can enjoy the wild even when it’s tame because wherever you go, there you are (see: Where Are You?).
Some people seek thrills. That’s enjoyment to them. Waiting in line is torture, but if impatience is quiet, time slows down. If a watched kettle takes forever to boil, why not watch kettles? Live longer. Enjoy time not doing.
The counter argument is, “If I’m not busy, I’m bored. I may as well be dead!” This may be true, but if it isn’t, it could be that you’re not doing ‘not doing’ quite right.
To not do isn’t a lull between doings. You can be not doing and look busy. To not be busy is to take the time to watch something far away. It is to linger on a sensory memory (see Keep it Simple). It is to shift focus to the periphery as you walk down a long hallway without swinging your arms and feel amused in so doing. Enjoy yourself as yourself where you are. Why not? Is the alternative any better? What have you got to lose?
To not be busy is to take your time. You are here to be here. This isn’t serious. Enjoy a rock and roll groove as you watch trees shake and shimmy to distant thunder.